Write a Letter - Heal Your Soul!
Don't Just Survive, Forgive So You May Also Thrive
by Natacha Cann on July 7th, 2015

I received a forgiveness letter from an anonymous woman who participated in The Healing Letters Project. While letters are typically written to one person, this woman addressed her letter to several men who sexually abused her for many years, beginning when she was only a child. These men included her stepfather, uncle, cousin, her sister’s boyfriend, her aunt’s boyfriend, and a stranger. That is a very long list of abusers and it is both disheartening and sad to know that this type of abuse is all too common.
This woman’s letter, however, was anything but sad. While it is clear that she remembers every detail of the abuse, it is also clear that forgiving her abusers has enabled her to overcome such devastating circumstances. In her own words:
“I did not forgive you for you; I forgave you for me. Statistics say that I should be hooked on drugs, promiscuous . . . yet none of those things reflect who I've become. I am the educated, well-rounded, charismatic, funny, loyal, strong, independent, God-fearing woman I am today in spite of the unspeakable acts you did to me.”
​She goes on to state that she not only survived the abuse, she has also thrived. Her triumphant stance really resonated with me! There is certainly a difference between surviving and thriving. Surviving a situation could simply mean that you made it, you’re still here and you still exist. But, in what condition are you? Thriving means not only did you survive, but you were also able to heal spiritually, flourish undoubtedly, and move forward with dignity. Yes, this woman is so much more than just a survivor. She is an inspiration and a living testament that no matter how severely you have been wounded, healing and restoration is possible if you choose forgiveness.
If you would like to be inspired by this woman’s journey, please visit our website’s Healing Letters page and read her forgiveness letter. On that page you will also find letters written by other women who have decided to allow God to heal their wounds by writing letters of reconciliation to forgive their offenders. If you personally have a desire to forgive someone, but you don’t know where to start or what to say, visit our Project page, where you will find the step-by-step process on how to write a forgiveness letter. If you have any thoughts on forgiveness, surviving and thriving, please comment on this post and share your thoughts. I’d love to hear from you.
​​“He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds.”
Psalm 147:3

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