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You Forgive and Let God Get Even
by Natacha Cann on May 3rd, 2016

​In a previous post titled, “Forgiveness Heals, Revenge Hurts,” I discussed that you cannot get emotional healing by seeking revenge for an offense, because revenge makes you act in the same manner as your offender (or even worse). I also maintained that in order to recover from being hurt and find true healing you must instead forgive. The idea of getting back at someone, however, can be very tempting, especially when deeply hurt. So, in this week’s post I’d like to discuss what you can do to overcome the temptation to retaliate when someone hurts you.
The desire to get back at someone stems from the desire to want justice and fairness. It is reasonable to expect that if someone wrongs you, that person should face consequences and be held accountable for their actions. But, there is a difference between wanting justice and wanting to be person who administers the justice. When you want to personally right the wrong you incite feelings of retaliation. To overcome those feelings of pay back you must address your need to take matters into your own hands and realize that retaliation doesn’t fix problems, it only makes them bigger.
​A lot of people cannot accept this because they feel that by not taking some type of action they are letting the other person off the hook. This is a big motivator behind pay back, the feeling that “If I do nothing, you get away with something.” The problem with this rationale is that it doesn’t take into account that accountability works both ways. My offender should be held accountable for his/her actions, but if I pay them back, I will be held accountable for my actions too. It also doesn’t take into account that retaliation is not the only way to get justice.
The best way to get justice and fairness is by letting God be the judge and the jury. God reserves the work of vengeance for Himself. Romans 12:19 says, “Beloved, never avenge yourselves, but leave it to the wrath of God, for it is written, vengeance is mine, I will repay, says the Lord.” Can you trust in the fact that God can do His job better than you can? God always keeps His word, so we can be certain that our offenders will answer for the wrong they have done. No one gets off the hook for bad behavior and that includes us as well. Trusting in what God said He will do will help you overcome those feelings of personal pay back. You forgive and let God get even.
What do you think? Can you trust God to even the score when someone wrongs you, or do you feel you have to take matters into your own hands?

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