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Is Forgiveness a Sign of Weakness or Strength?
by Natacha Cann on June 7th, 2016

​Throughout my time mentoring I find that a lot of women associate forgiveness with being weak, giving in, or giving up. They feel that any attempt at letting go of the pain and anger is seen as a sign of weakness. So, to remain strong, one must “stand her ground” and not give in and forgive.
But, is remaining angry and withholding forgiveness the strong thing to do? Here’s one way to answer that question: it’s the easier thing to do.
- ​Sometimes it’s just easier to remain angry. Otherwise, dealing with your demons is too painful.
- Sometimes it’s just easier to hold a grudge. You feel justified because of how you were treated.
- Sometimes it’s just easier to be right while the other person is wrong. It feels good to be right.
The fact is it takes strength to forgive someone (sometimes a lot of strength). That’s because you have to do what is difficult. You have to reach down in places you never knew existed to be able to forgive some of the things that people have done to you.
- You have to overlook offenses when people slap you in the face (figuratively speaking).
- You have to forgive friends when they use you, abuse your trust, or take you for granted.
- You have to forgive family members when they meddle in your affairs, or do and say malicious things.
Forgiveness involves self-evaluation and self-sacrifice and that’s why it takes a strong person to forgive. Forgiveness is never a sign of weakness; it is in fact a sign of strength.
What do you think? Do you think forgiving someone makes you weak? Do you think it necessarily makes you strong? Comment and share your thoughts.
​Get rid of all bitterness, rage and anger . . . Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.
Ephesians 4:31-32

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