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You Can't Rush Forgiveness
by Natacha Cann on July 5th, 2016

​I heard from a reader who is having a very difficult time with the “process” of forgiving. You see, she has actually forgiven a lot, but forgiving has not automatically removed all of her pain. I think there is a certain expectation that when you forgive, the rest of the healing process will just automatically fall into place. And, when it does not, it can be very discouraging.
It is important to remember that the “act” of forgiving someone is not a magical cure-all. That is why it has been said many times that forgiveness is not just an act; it’s a “process.” The process takes time and time is relative because it is different for all of us. If your intent is to rush the process, you are setting yourself up for failure.
​This woman said, “My worst problem is I truly, truly lack patience!” Well, some of us have many years of built-up pain, bad memories and negative emotions. What took a long time to build will not be broken down in a matter of days, months, or in some cases even years. If you don’t exercise patience, time will work against you and not for you.
Galatians 6:9 says, “And let us not grow weary of doing good, for in due season we will reap, if we do not give up.” If you are trying to forgive someone for hurting you, regardless of how hard it may be, rest assured that you are doing what is good. And, as Galatians reminds us, do not give up on doing good because in due time you will reap the benefits. Patience truly is a virtue.
Have you been lacking in patience with it comes to forgiving others? Do you think patience is really necessary to overcome pain? Comment on this post and share your thoughts.

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