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Forgiveness Is Like a Cancelled Note
by Natacha Cann on October 4th, 2016

​What does forgiveness look like? Clergyman Henry Ward Beecher once said that forgiveness should be like a “cancelled note” that you tear up and burn so it can never be used against the person again.
That means there’s no turning back once you forgive a person for what they’ve done. You don’t bring the incident up again and you don’t spend time secretly harboring resentment in your heart. When you “tear up an incident and burn it,” it is as if the incident never happened in the first place. That’s a rather strict description of forgiveness! Who can pretend as if a hurtful incident never happened?
Well, to clarify, forgiving someone does not mean you go about your life being in denial (or pretending) about the wrong that was done to you. It means that “in your heart” you let go of the wrong that was done to you. You should still hold the person accountable and deal with the damage. You may even find it necessary to distance yourself from the person you forgave if he or she is untrustworthy. However, your heart is free of all hatred and resentment. This is the key – what you carry (or don’t carry) in your heart is what matters.
What do you think? Can you really “tear up an incident and burn it?”
​“Create in me a clean heart, O God, and renew a right spirit within me.”
Psalm 51:10

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