Write a Letter - Heal Your Soul!
I Can Forgive Without Knowing
by Natacha Cann on February 28th, 2017

​A woman submitted a forgiveness letter recently that was addressed to her nephew, Bruce. Bruce had abused this woman for many years. The abuse left her with emotional scars, including shame and low self-esteem.
In her letter, she laments that she would really like to talk to Bruce about the things that happened between them, but since she can’t have that conversation, she has decided to forgive and let God and the Holy Spirit work on the situation.
She goes on to write, “I don't know why you did the terrible things you did to me, I wish I did.” And then, she wrote one of the most compelling statements I have ever read. She wrote, “But I can forgive without knowing.”
“I can forgive without knowing” really resonated with me.
Too often we find that it is impossible to forgive because “we don’t know.” And, we want to know why people did such terrible things to us. We want to confront people and have them look us in the eyes and tell us why. But, the reality is that many of us don’t ever get the opportunity to have that conversation. And even if the conversation took place the person may not admit the wrong they have done.
​This is where our faith in God becomes crucial. We have to get to a place where we stop demanding answers and instead place our pain and suffering in God’s hands and trust that He will deliver and vindicate us. When we get to this point, where we rely on God for our answers and justification, then true healing has begun.
It took some time to get there, but the woman who wrote the forgiveness letter finally understands. She concludes her letter to Bruce by stating, “You are in His hands and I no longer have to carry the dread, the pain, the sorrow, or the humiliation you spewed onto me for years. What a relief to release this pain into the universe and onto God’s shoulders.”
It took a lot of courage for this woman to forgive and to put it in writing. I pray that God will continue to provide her with comfort and healing.
"​Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of mercies and God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our affliction, so that we may be able to comfort those who are in any affliction, with the comfort with which we ourselves are comforted by God."
-2 Corinthians 1:3-4

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