Write a Letter - Heal Your Soul!
by Natacha Cann on April 25th, 2017

​If you’ve ever had a falling-out with a friend, you know how hard it is to forgive them and make things right. In fact, it’s often said that it is easier to forgive an enemy than it is to forgive your friend. That’s because a friend is very close to you and can hurt you in ways that others can’t.
 
You share time, space and experiences with friends that may put you in a vulnerable position if the friendship falls apart. Trust is hard to restore and while some friendships do weather the storm, other friendships may be beyond repair.
 
But, whether it is your current friend or your ex-friend, no matter how much they’ve hurt you, you should forgive the wrong they’ve done. Your forgiveness will not be an excuse for, or a stamp of approval on their behavior. Instead, your forgiveness will allow you to move beyond the incident with a clear conscious knowing that you did the right thing.
 
“When a man's ways please the Lord, he makes even his enemies to be at peace with him.”
-Proverbs 16:7​

by Natacha Cann on April 11th, 2017

​Mending a broken heart is oftentimes like going through a roller coaster of emotions. There may be days where you feel as though you are finally healing, but then something happens and your heartache returns.
 
Don’t be discouraged. Healing is a multifaceted process that takes time.
 
Forgive yourself, forgive others and continue to pray that God will give you strength. He is indeed close to the brokenhearted and He will heal your wounds.
 
"The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit."
-Psalm 34:18

by Natacha Cann on March 28th, 2017

​Prayer is a powerful means to recover from hurtful situations. As you pray for self-healing, don’t be afraid, too proud, or too angry to pray for the person who caused your hurt.
 
Pray that they will become a better person, realize the error of their ways, be held accountable for their actions and not hurt anyone else in the future.  Your prayers will put you in the right state of heart and mind to ultimately forgive them and experience complete healing.

​“Love your enemies, do good to those who hate you, bless those who curse you, pray for those who abuse you.”
-Luke 6:27-28

by Natacha Cann on March 14th, 2017

​The road to forgiving someone can be pretty long and rather difficult. Depending on the severity of your despair, it may take you a long time to work through your feelings until you can actually forgive someone for hurting or betraying you.
 
The process can be very frustrating and you can become impatient with yourself. But, remember this: forgiveness is not one sweeping effort; sometimes, you have to take baby steps.
 
You are not running a race to simply “get over it.” You are seeking a transformation of your heart, mind and soul; you are seeking true healing. This requires an up-front investment of time, prayer and patience. For these, there are no substitutes.
​“Rejoice in hope, be patient in tribulation, be constant in prayer.”
Romans 12:12

by Natacha Cann on February 28th, 2017

​A woman submitted a forgiveness letter recently that was addressed to her nephew, Bruce. Bruce had abused this woman for many years. The abuse left her with emotional scars, including shame and low self-esteem.
 
In her letter, she laments that she would really like to talk to Bruce about the things that happened between them, but since she can’t have that conversation, she has decided to forgive and let God and the Holy Spirit work on the situation.
 
She goes on to write, “I don't know why you did the terrible things you did to me, I wish I did.” And then, she wrote one of the most compelling statements I have ever read. She wrote, “But I can forgive without knowing.”
 
“I can forgive without knowing” really resonated with me.
 
Too often we find that it is impossible to forgive because “we don’t know.” And, we want to know why people did such terrible things to us. We want to confront people and have them look us in the eyes and tell us why. But, the reality is that many of us don’t ever get the opportunity to have that conversation. And even if the conversation took place the person may not admit the wrong they have done.